Staying Close During & After COVID-19
Are you there for me?
Are you there for me? Am I lovable? Am I good enough? Will you be there for me when I really need you?
More than ever, lovers want to know, to feel in their bodies and souls, that their beloved is accessible, responsive, and engaged, during who would have imagined - the coronavirus COVID-19 pandemic. During such a time of uncertainty, where our basic desire is to live and to stay safe, strong and healthy - can I depend on you?
How to Deal with Relationships?
In this, the very first clip I saw of this funny and wise person, mystic, known as Sadhguru, he says relationships are a variable reality, not an absolute reality. People do what they want with their lives. What is it that you really want with your life? You don't have to react to them. Life brings you closer to reality with relationships.
It takes time and energy to manage a romantic relationship; it's an obligation. Relationships require a lot of skill and attention. Ask anyone who has been in a committed relationship.
Sadhguru continues that if you blossom as a complete life, relationships take on a completely different nature - one of coming together and sharing, rather than extracting.
Increase Your Romantic Happiness
As One Wellness suggests that couples increase skill and attention to their relationship by the following:
Know how to become the best version of yourself
Know how to create and maintain your own bliss
Live a complete, full, balanced life
Yoga and meditation
Start each morning asking the other, "How can I help you today?"
Give each other space during your workday - only some sexting; build the anticipation
Greet each other at the door at home for a 2 minute connection to set the tone of your evening
Stay curious about your beloved
Stay conscious that each interaction creates connection or resentment
Know your "dance cycle"; how you argue and repair
Attend couples therapy with someone who practices Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and integrates yoga and meditation
Weekly date night, even at home
Assess for trust, commitment, and calm
Be the change, do the work
Maintain a visible gratitude journal memorializing the ways they were there for you
Know when and how to consciously uncouple and let go in love
Know how to consciously love again
As One can help.
"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." --Rumi